What do you think about yourself? If many of us stopped to think about this question at length we might be surprised to find that we hold a negative perspective about ourselves. While often we can think that we are just bound to think about yourselves in this way forever, we can actually make changes.
This article highlights some steps we can take as individuals to shift our mindset to a “yes” mindset in regard to ourselves.
Acknowledge the Need to Change
You cannot change what you are not first willing to acknowledge. It might be hard to look at yourself and see clearly that you possess a negative mindset about yourself, but through reflection and introspection, you can often see hints of this type of mindset and how it’s negatively affecting you. Not only that, but you can ask for feedback from people in your life who are likely better positioned to see this mindset at work and tell you about it. When you realize you need to change you’ll be more willing to take the steps to do so.
The idea that you need to change by itself is likely not enough to help you make the change. So getting more specific about what you need to change and how you plan to implement the change. Writing out a list of the things you want to change will give you more clarity about what you intend to focus on while planning out how you intend to carry out the change will give you clear steps that will increase the likelihood of you being successful.
Have a Why
There will be times when your old mindset tries to creep back in. In these moments it can be quite tempting to fall back into old habits and old patterns of thinking. It is in these moments when having a “why” can be incredibly beneficial. A “why” is your reason for pursuing the change in the first place. Maybe your why is because you want to take more risks so you can achieve more. Perhaps your why is to have more fulfilling relationships.
Or maybe the why is as simple as having higher self-esteem and more confidence. Whatever your specific “why”, it is there to keep you focused and on track when the going gets tough.
It can be a great idea to have a person or small group of people to support you as you go about the process of changing your mindset about yourself. These individuals can help remind you of your goals, your plan to reach those goals, and your “why.” All of this, in addition to their physical and emotional support, can serve as motivation as you find yourself on this journey of mental and emotional transformation.
The way we think about ourselves becomes our inner voice which goes on to shape how we see and feel about ourselves. Thus, it is important that we watch the things we say about ourselves. This could mean using methods like affirmations to reprogram the way we think/speak about ourselves so that our thoughts about ourselves eventually become positive and automatic.
With these steps, you can begin the process of changing to a “yes” mindset. While the process may not exactly be quick or easy, with some effort and energy it will yield positive results.
Adopting The Yes Attitude Toward Your Own Self Image
There are many ways to improve your attitude toward your own self-image. Often we are our own worst critics, and the way we speak to ourselves is usually way worse than how we’d ever speak to another person. Why is it so hard for people to speak to themselves kindly?
One way to improve your self-image is to adopt a “yes” attitude. When you treat yourself with more kindness and respect, you begin to lose the fear of really trusting yourself. Too often we are scared to say yes to ourselves and invest time in ourselves. With a few tips and tricks, you can start adopting a “yes” attitude and improving your self-image.
Reframe your phrasing and start using more positive language when speaking to yourself.
Forbes Magazine suggests taking it easier on yourself, especially after you make a mistake. Often, we’re rough on ourselves after making a mistake, even if it’s something small.
An easy way to use more positive language when speaking to yourself is to reframe some of your phrasing. For example, pretend you made a mistake that started a big fight between you and your spouse. When you reflect on the argument, you may think yourself “I can’t believe I said something that stupid.” This is harmful language–you’re being mean to yourself for reacting in a stressful moment.
Instead of lingering on this negative language and being cruel to yourself, reframe your phrasing to be more positive and forward-thinking. Instead, you can practice telling yourself “I need to apologize for what I said and move forward; next time we disagree, I won’t say something like that.” This phrase acknowledges responsibility for the mistake while also saying “yes” to a better future experience.
If you want to adopt a yes attitude and improve your self-image, the best way to begin is by changing your phrases and inserting more positive language into your self-reflection.
There is no harm in dreaming big and telling yourself yes.
When you don’t say “yes” to yourself often enough, you place major limits on what you can actually accomplish in life. Success and growth are mental processes–before you can make real strides and develop a better self-image, you build confidence by allowing yourself to take on big dreams!
Thrive Global describes the importance of having big goals and dreams. When you realize that your biggest obstacle is your own mentality, you can slowly begin to change things and adopt a “yes” attitude to improve your own self-image.
If you feel a little nervous about saying yes to some of your biggest goals and ambitions, you can begin adopting a “yes” attitude in small steps. Over time, your confidence will improve.
An example of a small step you can take is by developing a mantra to remind yourself of some simple life truths. These simple truths are often forgotten when we’re busy being negative and worrying about what could happen and go wrong in the future. Some examples of simple mantras you can use to calm your mind and move toward a more positive thinking, “yes” attitude are:
- It’s okay to not have complete control over everything.
- Sometimes, things don’t go my way, and that’s OK.
- I deserve to have big goals and dreams.
- I can work hard to make my goals and dreams happen.
- It is OK to say “yes” to myself.
- I am a good person who deserves positivity in life.
You can also develop your own short mantras to serve as reminders. When you feel yourself wanting to say “no” to yourself (or if you’re having a particularly hard self-image day), take a moment to meditate and repeat your chosen mantra.
By taking small steps, you can adopt a “yes” attitude toward your own self-image.