Let’s face it, life can get pretty hectic and emotionally draining. We can easily end up spending more time stressing than being productive and it affects all aspects of our lives. Forced to multi-task, we don’t really give the necessary time and attention to any particular project or goal, just to get by and make it to the next day.
Instead of trying to take in everything all at once, try analyzing each trying situation with the following 3-step process. These three tips help us avoid impulsive decisions based on unstable emotions and make it easier to keep our composure, process and then make a move.
1. Perception is Everything.
Just because it’s not a good situation doesn’t mean we should hyper-focus on every negative point. Stop, breathe and counteract the initial emotional response with positivity. There is something positive in everything; a blessing in disguise, a fortunate mistake. Serendipity.
2. Embrace the Challenge.
Life can throw all sorts of things in our paths all at once. It gets bumpy. Sometimes it gets downright nasty. Embrace the challenges. By accepting that basic concept, being caught off guard is nearly impossible.
The final step in the initial assessment is to create a plan and act on it. Counterattack problems with solutions. Be the offensive team, not defensive. Standing still doesn’t get results, nor does it solve anything. We have to make a better future for ourselves happen.
Learn From Others
We stand in awe at the emotionally stable people around us, perplexed at how they keep it all together, come what may. It’s like these people have some sort of superpower or genetic mutation enabling them to find this incredible balance in life. Take a deeper look. These are a few habits emotionally stable people have adopted:
They Aren’t Afraid to Say “No”
When the going gets tough and time is short, people who are smart about their time and energy don’t take on additional projects or responsibilities just to save face. They also don’t feel bad about saying no. Over-extending ourselves doesn’t serve anyone in the end.
They Are Nonconformists
Just because the crowd is doing it doesn’t mean they will. Emotionally stable people are willing to go against the grain if it means retaining their dignity and self-worth. If they don’t believe in it, they won’t buy into it. Being comfortable in our own skin is all about self-discovery and standing on convictions.
They Choose Their Close Relationships Wisely
Toxic people aren’t able to penetrate the emotionally stable person’s forcefield of intolerance. Close relationships should build us up, not tear us down. Think of it like this; a relationship is an investment.
We invest time, energy, and a piece of ourselves in every relationship we have. A good return on investment is worth keeping. Likewise, no return, or a bad return on investment, is worth simply leaving behind.
They Don’t Pretend to Be Perfect
On the outside, it may appear the emotional person has it all together and is living a perfect life. They too have flaws and shortcomings. And they know it. Instead of focusing on those things they embrace them and move on.
An emotionally stable individual usually won’t hesitate to admit their imperfections to others either. When we learn to accept ourselves, inner happiness and emotional strength shine through.
Ask for Help
Speaking of being imperfect, those with stable emotions don’t feel threatened when they need help. And they ask for it. Instead of spending countless hours on a task they know will be daunting, they will build a team of people with the appropriate skill set to get the job done effectively and efficiently.
Think about it. Big companies are successful because they have teams of people performing certain duties. They don’t treat the entire operation as a one-man show.
They Help Others
Not only do they help others, but they also cheer on their peers. Seeing another person succeed isn’t the time for a critical assessment of self. That’s the time to applaud a job well done. Those with weaker emotions sometimes become envious of another’s successes. Be a motivator! Be a cheerleader!
Becoming more emotionally stable isn’t rocket science and it’s there’s no magic potion to make it happen. By incorporating these attitudes into our daily lives, little by little we change our overall perception and grow stronger with each positive move.