How to be happy for others. Above all else, above wealth, fame and having and holding material possessions, what you and I are looking for is happiness, isn’t it?
What’s money, wealth, fame, or material possessions if you are NOT happy? They are as nothing. So, how does one learn how to be happy?
Love Yourself First
If you want to be happy, learn to love yourself first. So what does loving yourself mean? If you are a parent, you know that special love you feel for your child? That’s the love you should give to yourself as well.
More often than not we are incredibly hard on ourselves, especially if you’re one of those out of control egomaniacs with a critic living inside of you, and your inner child is being held hostage by its rants.
Love Yourself with Childlike Wonder
Getting in touch with your inner child is important because the longer you are here on planet earth, the more distant you are from your inner child. Do you remember the childlike abandon in play? When was the last time you felt like that?
The inner child has been wounded by your caretakers (i.e. bad life experiences), sometimes on purpose and sometimes not and by what life has delivered to your doorstep. But if you’re willing you can get back in touch with that inner child and free it, you can begin living a life of pure and utter joy.
Learn to honor yourself – this is important if you want to be happy. Accept your feelings and don’t repress them. This doesn’t mean you always spout your feelings to the world. But between you and you, accept how you feel, sit with your feelings, breathe through them, feel them. The inner child responds to its environment through feelings, and when you suppress your emotions, you are keeping your inner child from healing. Most of the time if you just let the bad feelings be and accept that bad things do happen in life whether or not it’s your fault, the unhappiness will dissipate.
Once you give voice to your inner child and your feelings and begin loving yourself, a freedom starts to grow in you that’s unlike anything you’ve experienced.
Now Share That Love with Others
Once this love blossoms within you, it can’t help but spill over. Sharing your love with others not only brightens their day but brightens yours as well. This is another way you can learn how to be happy for others without feeling jealous or vindictive.
If you find yourself “hurt” by what someone has said to you, try asking yourself why. When you delve down into the feelings, you’ll understand that you’ve been shot because of something you believe about yourself, not necessarily what the person outside of you is saying.
When it comes right down to it, the world could use more people who’ve learned to embrace their inner child, turned off the voice of that inner critic, and loved themselves into happiness.