A series of encounters with human behavioural specialist Dr Demartini changed my interpretation of happiness and provided me with an unexpected secret to lasting fulfilment.
By Denisa Irene Oosthuizen
Happiness or Fulfilment?
“I prefer the term ‘fulfilment’ and not ‘happiness,’” replied human development specialist Dr Demartini in an interview I conducted for an online publication I had timidly started a few years ago. My question was: How do you define happiness?
How happy are you? How do you define the word happy? When you feel unhappy, how do you attempt to change that? We all have different interpretations of the word “happy.” We all employ different strategies to try to achieve happiness. But there are some proven strategies for becoming happier, more content person. In this uncertain world, sometimes focusing on small joys can make a big impact on your level of happiness.
Happiness is a pretty fluid concept. Is it sufficient to be happy for a few moments each day? Should the amount of time we spend being happy outweigh the time we feel unhappy or simply indifferent? Are the things that make men happy different to those of women?
When I am thin I will be happy! When I live in the house of my dreams, then I will be happy! Or perhaps when I meet my Soulmate, I will be happy? Does any of this sound familiar to you? Have you like many postponed your happiness to another day in the future? Read more
How often do we concern ourselves about not having enough, or of being late, of wasting or making best use of it? We talk about people who live in the past, or live only for today, or who squander their future because of past misdeeds or mistakes. Read more
Feeling positive about ourselves means we care much less about what others think about us. A sense of self-worth is about having a decent and valued relationship with yourself. It is an understanding that everyday isn’t perfect, that not everyone will like you, but that what you have (your achievements, your friends, your interests, etc) are solid. Read more