We all have things we regret but what matters is what we do about it. Regret can lead to some pretty nasty and destructive emotions, and everyone deals with them in different ways. If you’re having trouble moving past your remorse, consider working through these tips to get on with your life.
- We all mess up
Realizing that you are not the only person to ever mess up can be an eye-opening experience. The sooner you accept that you are human, you made a mistake or a poor decision, and then move on, the sooner you can get on with your life.
- Question Your Emotions
If your regret has led to some of the nastier emotions that come with it, start questioning those emotions. Is self-loathing really helping? Does it make you feel better? Of course not. They may feel real enough but they are your emotional reactions, and you have every right to question them.
- Reject Your Negative Self-Talk
When you find yourself slipping into negative self-talk, stop and question it. Negative self-talk is one of the most counterproductive acts you can take part it. Question why you are saying those things to yourself and if they are getting you anywhere.
- Question Your Triggers (for negative self-talk)
What starts your negative self-talk? Is it internal, something someone else says, or another emotion? Do your best or remove those triggers so you can go through your day without being reminded.
- Question Your Thoughts
Our thoughts shape our actions and our reality. If you are having negative thoughts (about yourself or a situation), then question those. Why do you have them? Are they helping? Our thoughts directly impact our perception of reality and our outward actions. Do not let your negative thoughts run amuck.
- Gratitude – Do It!
Regular gratitude can help you see the good in your days, your weeks, and your life. Stop and be thankful for what you do have.
- Be Authentic to Yourself
Your one mistake is not the sum of who you are. Be honest with yourself and who you are. What are your positive qualities and attributes? What do you want to do moving forward?
- Apologize to and Forgive Yourself
Let yourself off the hook. Forgive yourself for the poor decision. Apologize to yourself for the regret and negative emotions, and then forgive yourself again for speaking so harshly to yourself.
Regret can bog you down and create an endless cycle. Take time daily to work through your regret and allow yourself to move past and reach your full potential.
4 Quick Changes
Regret is often an all-consuming feeling. It can take over your life, pushing out other hopeful feelings and sometimes even your ability to think clearly and make rational decisions. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Take the time to stop, think about your feelings and actions, and implement quick changes that will allow you to move on with your life and be a better you.
- Deal with It
Think about your regret and just deal with it for a moment. Let yourself feel the shame, the anger, the sorrow, and maybe even some fear. Deal with those emotions, and then let them go. Once you release those emotions and regret along with them, you can move on with your life and find better ways to spend your time.
- Break Up with Bad Habits
A lot of regret stems from bad habits. Maybe you feel remorse over the mean things you say to your friend every time you overindulge at Wine Wednesdays. Break up with Wine Wednesdays. Bad habits are hard to stop, but the sooner you can start focusing on the happier aspects of life, the sooner you’ll be able to let go of regret. Breaking up with a bad habit will not only help stop the remorse but will also give you something new to focus on. You can also fill that free time with new good and healthy habits – like suggestions three and four.
- Practice Gratitude
Be present and thankful for the little and big things in your life. Studies have shown that practicing daily gratitude, especially when you write it down, can improve mood. While everyone has regrets, practicing daily gratitude will allow you to focus on the good while also being thankful for the good that you have in your life.
- Find Passion in Your Day
Passion comes in many varieties. Love for your job, for your hobby, for your family, for your partner. Passion is the sprinkles on the sundae of life. It makes things taste better, feel better, and seem better – even when they may not actually be. Find your passions and focus on those and allow yourself to enjoy.
Making changes can be scary. However, more often than not, the scary changes are much less horrific than continuing on a negative spiral filled with regret and hard emotions that will weigh you down. Consider these quick changes for changing your outlook.