We use the term resilience to refer to our ability to bounce back from adversity. Resilience comes about in a variety of ways. Learning from past experiences, trying not to prevaricate, staying optimistic and keeping things in perspective, looking after yourself and looking to the future are all ways our resilience develops.
So far so good, but let’s not pretend that resilient people are super-human. Remember that we’re talking about our ability to bounce back from adversity so this means resilient people feel emotions the same way anyone else does.
There are times in life when we we’re subjected to a real emotional battering. Whether it’s a single major event or a string of crises is beside the point. The fact is we can suddenly find ourselves on the ropes feeling utterly dejected. Resilience is a state of mind but when our bodies are surging with stress hormones all the calm and rational aspects that come with resilience seem to be overwritten. How do we move away from such tensions?
Our physiological responses to stressors hold the clue. In order to power up our resilience we first have to tune our physical state. We can’t simply think our way out of sleepless nights or physical and emotional exhaustion because these are factors that influence our resilience. So, in order to tap into our reserves of resilience it’s important to see to the body first. This isn’t as hard as it may sound.
Consider burning off that negative energy by undertaking some form of physical activity. Give your adrenaline something to work on. Go walking, cycling, swimming or pay a visit to the gym. Then, turn to your preferred relaxation technique and use your breathing. Put away the comfort foods, or, if you’ve been neglecting your diet get back on track. Drink plenty of foods and eat a balanced and nutritious diet.
Before invigorating you it’s possible these actions will make you feel tired. Go with it. Allow yourself to sleep and your body to repair itself. As your body responds so your thinking will become clearer and more balanced. Use people in your social network to your advantage. Reach out to people, online resources, anywhere you can form connections. Before you know it those resilience reserves you’ve worked on will come to your aid.