We’ve all heard the term “emotional wreck.” Maybe you’ve described yourself or a friend in this way. Celebrities such as Lindsey Lohan and Brittany Spears have been described as such.
An emotional wreck is defined as a person who is unable to properly control their emotions. They are in a state of mind where their emotions have either taken over or are tangled up in a massive ball of disaster.
No matter how long or how deep you may be on an emotional wreck train, there is always a way to master your emotions and stop the wreck. First, we will discuss what constitutes an emotional wreck and then we will provide ways to master your emotions.
Below are 4 signs and symptoms of an emotional wreck:
No Control Over Your Emotions:
Do you possess little to no emotional self-control? Do you fly off the handles or cry at the drop of a dime? Do you have a habit of saying whatever you think without a thought to the consequences?
Feel Guilty About Your Emotions:
After letting your emotions out in uncontrollable outbreaks, do you begin feeling guilty about them? You may blame or resent others but do nothing to resolve the matter at hand. You may regret letting your emotions run rampant.
Are you unable to have stable argument-free conversations with those closest to you? Do you consistently find yourself complaining or arguing with them? Toxic types hold us back.
You Can Not Accept Constructive Criticism
Do you believe you are always correct and in the right? Are you unable to accept that you are capable of making errors or mistakes? Do you push back at anyone who offers you corrections or adjustments?
How to stop being an Emotional Wreck
Author of “How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain” and “ 7 ½ Lessons About the Brain”, psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett believes that each and every one of us are “architects of our experiences”. She believes we have the ability to master our emotions instead of being at their mercy.
Below are ways to master your emotions.
1. Keep Your Body Good Shape:
One way to master your emotions is by keeping your body in good shape. This is advice we’ve heard none stop since we were children. Exercise regularly, sleep enough and eat healthily. While it may seem like a broken record on repeat, these are necessary prerequisites in order to master your emotions. How can you control anything with low sleep, a poor diet, and the inability to move pain-free?
While food, sleep, and movement are keys to keeping your body in good shape, try adding in some of the below activities
2. Identify, Acknowledge, and Appreciate Your Emotions
Another way in learning how to master your emotions is by identifying them, acknowledging them, and appreciating them for what they truly are. Mastering your emotions does not mean you deny or shut down your feelings. Don’t ever allow yourself to think your emotions are “wrong.” The mindset that emotions are classified as wrong will broaden dishonest conversations and increase negativity. Instead, figure out why you’re having emotions and what good can come from them.
3. Be Confident
Another way in mastering your emotions is to embrace the notion that this too shall pass. You’ve been here before and you will be here again. Have confidence in yourself and your ability to propel yourself forward. Think back to a time when you were experiencing the very same emotions. The point isn’t to focus on the situation you experienced but on the pure joyous fact that you made it through. Not only did you survive but you were better for it.
Being an emotional wreck is not healthy for anyone. It will decrease not only your own personal satisfaction and productivity but it will lower those around you as well. Learning to master your emotions will greatly open up opportunities in your life both professionally and personally. Be confident, identify, acknowledge, and appreciate your emotions, and keep your body in good shape.