Most people aren’t born with a winning personality, but they can develop one. So, you’re not one of those people who easily connects with others. If you’re not comfortable chatting at a party or good at interacting with your co-workers and team members, you need a few tips.
Yet, having a “winning” personality could make your life so much easier. The good news is that while some people seem to be born with these traits, it is something that can be learned.
Let’s dive right in with four simple tips that you can implement right away to move into that direction.
Pick a Role Model
Start by picking a role model. Find someone around you who has a winning personality. Look for someone who’s charming, comfortable in their own skin, and good at talking to others. In other words, find the person who represents the “people skills” you want to develop.
Start watching this person closely.
Pay attention to what they do, what they say, how they act, and subtle things like body language and attitude.
Copy And Fake It
The next step is to start copying what this role model person is doing. I’m sure you’ve heard of the idea or concept of “fake it till you make it”.
It may sound ridiculous, but it actually works. The concept behind it is modeling. You model the behavior you want until you’ve internalized it and it has become part of your core personality.
Evaluate And Adjust As Needed
Of course, things aren’t always the way they seem. This is why it’s important to not blindly copy or model someone else.
Take the time to stop, evaluate how things are working, and tweaking and adjusting as needed.
Don’t be afraid to get ideas from observing other people, or try techniques you’ve read about. This is about your winning personality.
You aren’t limited to copying just one other person. Trial and error, and of course lots and lots of practice is the name of the game.
Work On Your Confidence
Last but not least, let’s talk about confidence, self-confidence to be more specific. One of the most attractive attributes of another person is self-confidence.
It makes us like them and builds trust. Do what you can to work on your own self-confidence. As you get better at this, your winning personality will start to shine brighter and brighter.
Start with these four simple concepts and put them to good use. Practice them over the coming weeks and watch how your personality and your relationship with others starts to change.
Keep practicing and keep working on that winning personality.
With enough effort, I promise you’ll get there. It’s not always easy, but definitely worth it.