As you get older, it’s common to drift apart from your parents. You start a family of your own and end up with lots of new responsibilities.
In some cases, you might even move to a whole new country, meaning you’re physically not as close to them as you once were. Time can put a strain on these relationships, and it can be hard for you to connect with them anymore.
But, it’s never too late to mend or improve a relationship. Here are a few of my ideas to help you and your parents:
Talk to them regularly
We’re all sometimes guilty of going weeks without talking to our elderly parents. This is particularly an issue when they live far away, and we can’t physically see them. So, a good habit to get into is talking to them on the phone once per week. Give them a call on the weekend, and you can stay updated on all their goings on. It’s such an easy way to improve your relationship as you actually talk to one another. You don’t feel so distant, and you actually know what’s going on in each other’s lives!
Think about their needs
I think a lot of us are guilty of putting our own needs ahead of our parents. This is never more apparent than when they need help. Perhaps one of your parents is old and can’t really look after themselves anymore. Your first instinct is to think about a solution that works best for you, rather than them. Think about what they want, and what’s best for them. Will they be better off in a care home like Porthaven, or will their life improve if they live with you or get at-home care? If you make a decision based on your own wants, then this damages the relationship further. Your parents will respect you more if you take their needs into account and actually teat them like a human being!
Make an effort to see them
Even if you live in different countries, you can still find time for your parents. The simple fact that you’re trying to find time will be enough for them. Everyone has at least one weekend spare or a few days during the kid’s school holidays; there’s not really an excuse. A day with your parents is better than none at all, and it shows you’re trying to see them. They’ll really appreciate it, and it helps bring them close to you and your family. If you have kids, then they’ll love seeing their grandchildren – even if it’s for one day. Try and see them at least once a year – possibly more. School holidays are an excellent excuse for a weekend away, or even on bank holidays as well.
It can be hard for a lot of us to maintain good relationships with our elderly parents. You have your own life to live, but never forget about the people that gave you life to begin with. After all, when you grow old, you’d like to hope your kids will still have a good relationship with you!