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Positive body language matters
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Positive body language matters

December 28, 2018December 28, 2018 Editor Comments Off on Positive body language matters

body language matters
What do I mean by positive body language matters? Well, here’s the thing, when you’re face to face with another person your body language speaks louder than the words you speak.

Your body speaks volumes

Let’s say you’re having a conversation with an old friend and you ask him how he’s doing. He says, “I’m fine” while shaking his head and looking down. Do you believe him? Of course not, because his body language is speaking volumes. We’ve all been in situations like this.

Another way to look at it is that it’s harder to lie with our body than with words. As a result, we tend to trust body language more.

We take the information we gain from posture, gesture, and looks more seriously than that we get from the words others speak. Most of the time it works out well for us, but when it comes to meeting other people and making sure we seem likeable and approachable, it can backfire.

Using positive body language

This is particularly true when we’re feeling a little shy and vulnerable.  Our first instinct is to protect ourselves from potential harm or pain. That often translates into a closed posture of crossed legs, hunched shoulders, and of course, arms crossed over our abdomen.

Our goal then is to “overwrite” those automatic habits of using body language that doesn’t help us make friends and influence people.

The first thing you should do is simply become more aware of body language in general. Observe others and how they use their posture and gestures to communicate.

Sit in a park, a mall, or the airport and start people watching, paying particular attention to body language. You’ll learn a lot.

Look at yourself

The next step is to become more aware of your own body language. Start to recognize what you’re doing. Pay attention when you catch yourself in a reflection, or even ask a friend to snap pictures of you when you’re in one of your “typical poses”.

Then, make an effort to adjust your body language to be more open and inviting. Start by uncrossing your arms. At first, you may not know what to do with them, but if you work on this one behavior, it won’t take you long to feel natural sitting and standing with them uncrossed.

Like so many other behavioral or habitual things, it takes time and conscious effort to change your body language. But, positive body language matters, so it is something worth focusing on and something that will improve with enough practice and persistence.

See also:

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