Preschool was the best time to make friends; it was much easier to get along with people. Now, getting friends is significantly harder as people don’t have the time, and it seems that it’s much harder to get along with them.
But it isn’t as hard as it feels; it just takes the right approach. To help, read these five tips on how to make new friends.
Trim the Bad Friends
It’s hard and can feel awful, but bad relationships will only hold you back from getting healthy ones. A bad friend will drain you of all your time and energy, to the point where you don’t or can’t make new ones. It’s best to get rid of them whenever you can.
Join a Group
A lot of friendships come around just because you spend enough time with the other person. The problem is getting that time in the first place. Joining a social group, like a book club or walking group, is a great way to get the time to reach out to new people without pressure. It’s a great way to get to know someone as the group has a goal in mind, so you don’t need to carry the conversation yourself.
Even when you join these groups, it’s still necessary to put yourself out there. Almost no one will approach you if you don’t make yourself available. Talk and connect with those around you as you’re in the group. Discuss your common interest in the group: that will help you get past that initial stranger stage of the friendship.
If you can’t find a group that interests you, try reaching out to old friends that had drifted apart. Reaching out to rekindle those relationships is a great way to make some good friends. Just make sure that they’re a positive person and not someone who’ll drain you.
Friends of Friends
If you already have a few friends, ask them to introduce you to their other friends. They can help you get to know this new person, and you’ll have a bigger friend group in the end. Plus, your friend can pick and choose someone they know would mesh well with you, making it less awkward.
These five tips on how to make new friends are some of the best ways to create lifelong connections, but you need to put the effort in to keep them. Engage with your new friends frequently and make sure you show them that you care. Things like giving gifts even when you don’t know them very well or showing up to their important events can make a huge difference.