3 Characteristics You Should Look For in a Friend


Author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Those five people have specific characteristics they carry than can influence you and the life you live. If you were to take inventory of the five people you spend the most time with and list their primary characteristics, what would they be?

Spending time with strong, influential people can be the key to a happier, successful, and more fulfilling life. Here are three characteristics to look for when you take inventory of the people you spend time with:

1) Compassion

Compassionate people see the world through the eyes of others. This enables them to put the needs of others before their own. In a world where selfishness shows up more often than selflessness, knowing that someone you spend time with has compassion for others can teach you why this characteristic is so valuable. It’s our job to love others, no matter what their flaws may be.

2) Goal-Oriented

Brian Tracy said a sign and great habit of a successful person is that they are goal-oriented. Life shouldn’t be about merely existing and living day to day. It should be about really living and exploring our wants and desires. When you surround yourself with goal-oriented people, you become goal-driven, too. These goals don’t have to be mountainous, either. Setting smaller goals is just as honorable and will set you up for chasing down bigger goals.

3) Integrity

People with integrity have morals and values that serve others for the greater good. They tend to do the right thing in any situation. When we see others do the right thing, we are inspired to do the same. People who are integrous admit when they’re wrong and are willing to give credit where credit is due. Those with integrity become our role models. When you spend time with integrous people, you learn from them and become a role model to others, too.

Who Are Your People?

Take a moment to sit down with pen and paper to determine the qualities of the five people you spend the most time with. Are they integrious? Compassionate? Goal-oriented? What other qualities do you admire about them? 

If you find some of these qualities are lacking in the people you spend time with, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend time with them, but it does mean you should evaluate how their characteristics affect you. If you find yourself feeling negative or not worthy when you are in their presence, it might be time to make a shift. Remember, the greatest gift you can give yourself is the gift of love. And it starts right here.

Joleene Moody is a PositivityGuides writer and Robbins-Madanes interventionist, specializing in offering information that helps readers shift their mindset quickly in order to improve their lives.

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