It’s very common for people to experience a breakdown in communication with their parents as they get older. When your parents start getting older and their health is suffering, there are some awkward conversations you need to have with them.
Unfortunately, we are not great at having these conversations and that can lead to a lot of problems in future, especially where health is concerned.
If you want to improve your relationship with your parents and make sure that they are happy and healthy, these are the awkward conversations you need to stop avoiding.
Conversations About End Of Life Planning
Asking your parents if they have a plan for the end of their life is tough because neither of you wants to talk about that. However, it’s important that you do because if you ignore it and their mental state declines, they may not be in a position to make the important decisions they need to make. They need to make decisions about their care in later life and how they are going to pay for it, for example. They may even want to make arrangements for their funeral. If they start planning this now, it makes things much easier for everybody later on because you are prepared for every eventuality. But if you dodge the conversation, it will cause a lot of stress as your parents get older and their health suffers.
Conversations About Independence
There will come a time when your parents are no longer able to do things on their own anymore and they will need your help. But it’s difficult for everybody involved to admit that your parents are unable to live independently. The idea of bathing elderly parents and helping them go to the toilet, for example, is a very awkward subject to talk about so people just end up dodging the conversation. However, if your parents are struggling to live independently it’s important that they get the help they need. If they don’t, their safety could be at risk, so have the conversation sooner rather than later.
Conversations About Wills And Trusts
People are worried about asking parents about wills and trusts because they think that it makes them look greedy. You don’t want your parents to think that you are just angling to find out how much they are leaving you in their will, so you just never bring it up. The thing is, your parents might be having trouble with their will or maybe they haven’t thought about it at all. They could be feeling awkward about mentioning it to you as well, so it is just left unresolved. The problem is, they won’t have control over what happens to their money after they die if there is no clear will in place. This can cause a lot of problems between family members and lead to some disputes, so it’s best to get it sorted now.
Having these conversations with your parents can be awkward, but it’s necessary, so make sure you do it sooner rather than later.