Life isn’t always fair or easy, but there are steps you can take to help take control of your life. One of the biggest things you can do to take control of your life is to adopt a more positive attitude.
Before you can change anything else in your life for the better, you must adopt a positive, can-do attitude. Here are a few tips you can follow to cultivate more positivity in your life so you can take control.
Accept that you can never have 100% control over everything.
This first tip may seem a little disheartening, but it is completely true. There are things in life that we can never have total control over, no matter how hard we try. If you spend a lot of time worrying and stressing over uncontrollable life events, this might be a tough step for you to take. However, once you accept this simple truth of life, you can begin to take control over the parts of life you can change.
Forbes Magazine suggests learning to accept uncertainty and unpredictability in life. When you spend time accepting the fact that it’s okay to not have total control, you can focus on parts of life where you do have control–for example, you may not be able to control how a situation happens, but you can control your reactions and attitude about how to handle it.
Build a more positive mindset.
If you tend to have a negative attitude, enriching your life with more positive thinking and speaking can help you take control of your life.
Think about how you talk to yourself. Do your words tend to be negative or positive? When you’re getting ready to start your day, do you dread the tasks you need to complete, or do you see them as opportunities? It can be challenging to escape a negative attitude, but the more you practice adding positivity into your day, the easier and more natural it will become.
For example, you can practice being more positive by changing the way you speak to yourself. If you make a mistake, don’t talk down to yourself about how badly you failed. Instead frame the situation more positively by saying “next time I’ll know how to do this the right way.” Approaching the situation more positively stops you from lingering on what went wrong and helps you focus your energy toward taking control.
Allow yourself to set big goals.
Some people approach having big goals negatively, saying big goals give you more room to fall if you fail to meet them. This is an extremely negative way to approach goal setting and taking control of your life.
Setting goals for yourself allows you to dream big and work towards something meaningful. Just because other people think a goal is too big doesn’t mean you should stay away from trying to reach it. Instead, you should invest your time in learning more about how you can make reaching this goal your reality.
A great way to explore how you can meet a big goal is to focus on mindfulness practices, meditation, and visualization. These tools can help you drown out the noise of other people’s opinions and focus on what you truly and deeply desire in life. Visualization and meditation practices help you look inward, focus on your strengths, and determine the right path you should take to build the life you want.
Ultimately, you control how your life happens; when you choose positivity and focus on yourself, you can take total control and say yes to a better life.