Good ways to cope with adversity (difficult or unpleasant situations) makes more sense if we compare them with what’s useless. For example, if we try to deny a problem and push to one side it will come back and bite hard. Similarly, attempts to trivialise the issue or to become fatalistic about it aren’t helpful.
Overthinking involves too much analysis, too much vigilance and too much emphasis on trying to control or fix situations. It’s something we tend to do more if we’re uncertain and once you get a couple more people in the same room doing the same thing it gets downright silly.
Have you ever woken up to a feeling of emptiness, thinking “what am I doing with my life?”. This un-fulfilment is something that you can push to the back of your mind, but it will keep creeping back, slowly but surely until it consumes you.
Worry provides the illusion of control but the amount of time spent worrying is often extensive but ultimately pointless. Worry about health is just one example. Various deep-seated beliefs play a substantial role in maintaining health anxieties.
Socially anxious people share a set of common beliefs. These boil down to thinking badly about yourself, setting standards that are too high, taking on too much personal responsibility and some issues around emotional reasoning. But why?